I see a lot of people claiming FB(Social networks) ruin relationships. It’s an immature way of thinking. I’m going to state this as a fact and I’m going to give supporting details to why I feel this way.
A social network is that, a social network. It is a network of social contacts. There is no way a network of social contacts can ruin your relationship unless you literally give them a way to. And in the end if you give them a way to YOU are the one that ruined your relationship. And no I’m not saying keep your relationship private, secret, or away from social networks. That is the first issue.
A lot of the times people will constantly pursue someone without fear of rejection on a social network because there is less consequence. Rejection also doesn’t feel so bad when you don’t have to have this person looking at you and making you feel unworthy or unattractive. Now combine that with the fact that in order to protect your relationship you’re not allowing people to know you have one, all the while constantly accepting new social contacts. You’ve just put yourself in a situation. People will continue to pursue you believing your single. They will also continue because they will not feel completely rejected unless they are blocked or deleted from your list of friends.
Now we’re pass that. As a man, if you’re constantly flirting with women,even if you only consider it a pastime or joke SOMEONE will take these flirtations serious to pursue you more boldly. Then you get to the point where people outside of your relationship are posting “Hey boo ” “I miss you bay ” etc… on your page. Now when your mate see’s this how are they suppose to respond to such? They’re upset with the women, like it’s they’re fault they took you seriously. Now you’re upset because “Facebook” ruined your relationship.
Now we take it a step further. Now say you are an unfaithful piece of shit. You use social networks to hunt for potential targets. You make sure to keep it on the hush, all flirtation and dirty talk only goes on in your inbox. Eventually someone is gonna get caught up. You feel like it’s easier to get sex if people think you don’t have a girl. Your girl is fine with that because she doesn’t want people in her business. So you’re living the life, you got a good girl at home doing everything you like, and you also have your string of social network freaks that are ready to please you when they get a inbox or text. Now the day comes when your girlfriend post or tags you in a picture together. now people KNOW you are together. They KNOW you got a girl. all these women you been inboxing dick pics too, telling you love them. Telling them you not ready for a relationship and you like what you have are on to you. You inbox is blowing up, you’re getting angry messages but they fall on deaf ears. Now they inboxing your girl. Sending her pics of ya’ll together, screen-shotting the inboxes, showing them the dick pics you sent them. Showing her the dick pics you told her you took just for her…
In your mind “Facebook just ruined my relationship.” No you’re a lying cheating bastard and you just got jammed up. Fucking around on a social network is no different than fucking around in the same social circle your mate roams in. Eventually it will get back to them. It’s not about facebook or social networks. If you a dog, hoe, thirsty nigga, or thot, you can’t blaim facebook because you don’t know how to be in a monogamous relationship. If you respect your relationship others will follow suit.
For women if you RESPECT YOURSELF other will follow suit. There is one major reason a man can look at 2 women who have had an equal amount of sex partners and only consider one of them a hoe. It’s self respect, the same applies to relationships. People might be bold online due to anonymity, but it’s nothing to hit the delete or block button. You gotta wonder if you care more about your online social life or your relationship. You’re relationship can’t ruin your social life and you’re social life can’t ruin your relationship. If one is affecting the other it’s because you are doing it. These are things YOU control. not the other way around. If you can’t control your hoes, you don’t need to have hoes online or off. The weak ass excuses are getting old.
“Respect!” Had to repost this!